When I got pregnant, I knew I had a decision to make. I had been working at the Art City Music Academy for 9 years–that’s nearly one third of my life. Chris and Yvonne Blonquist have become like family to me. I ran their school for so long that I had it down to a science. I taught piano lessons for so long that my students became my family.
I have always wanted to be a mom, and always wanted to be able to stay at home with my kids. It was easy to decide that I wouldn’t continue working full time after the baby was born. The harder decision was whether I should stop working completely, or keep teaching part time? Many people told me I would relish the time out of the house and away from the baby. Others told me I might resent the time away.
I decided I would keep two afternoons of teaching. I made the decision knowing that I couldn’t really know until I got there whether or not it would be okay. But I felt like I had something important to offer my students. And I have spent so many years of my life becoming a great teacher; I didn’t want to just give it up.
I have been back to work for two weeks now. When I am teaching, it’s almost like my life hasn’t been completely turned upside down. In the back of my mind, I know I have a baby at home, but at work, for 6 hours my life is not governed by whether the baby is hungry or tired or needs a diaper change. My existence is not carved into 2-3 hour slices delineated by the sweet babe’s hunger. I tuck his smiles and soft skin into the back of my mind. At work I am helping other mothers raise their children, and it feels...comfortable...to be doing what I have done for 9 years.
Then tonight I came home to a baby that had been crying for so long that even as he fell asleep in my arms, he kept breathing in with little sobs. Russell is really great with him, but he doesn’t like taking a bottle, and by the end of the day, he has just had it.
The truth is, I don’t resent the time away from my baby. But I also don’t need the time away from him. Being a mother is the most natural thing in the world to me. I don’t need a break from it. But I do love teaching.
Am I doing the right thing?